On a sabbath Jesus went to dine
at the home of one of the leading Pharisees,
and the people there were observing him carefully.
He told a parable to those who had been invited,
noticing how they were choosing the places of honor at the table.
“When you are invited by someone to a wedding banquet,
do not recline at table in the place of honor.
A more distinguished guest than you may have been invited by him,
and the host who invited both of you may approach you and say,
‘Give your place to this man,’
and then you would proceed with embarrassment
to take the lowest place.
Rather, when you are invited,
go and take the lowest place
so that when the host comes to you he may say,
‘My friend, move up to a higher position.’
Then you will enjoy the esteem of your companions at the table.
For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled,
but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
Below is an article I wrote for an anthology. Yesterday was typical–going to the food bank, outreach in the haight and outreach on polk. bed at 2 a.m. Deo Gratis! Thanks be to God!
“Being A Friend of Dorothy”
My friendship with Dorothy began at a very painful time in my life. In the Spring of 1989 I had left the ministry of the United Methodist Church and entered a treatment program for depression in Wisconsin. I was gay, and I could not understand how God would place that burden upon me, let alone call me to ministry–ministry in a church where being gay was “a sin”. I was trying to hide my sexuality and so I entered a period of great depression. I had heard of Dorothy a few years earlier in seminary but really gave her no thought. I picked up a Catholic Worker newspaper at the treatment center and my heart was moved. It was moved by her identity with the poorest of the poor and by the the tenants of the Catholic Worker: voluntary poverty, personalism, the Works of Mercy, and non-violence. Thus began my journey with Dorothy. Over the next five years I came out, I was a sex worker, and then a counselor, and I rejected the Church. But Dorothy stayed with me. I read everything I could find she had written. I tried living in a catholic worker but found myself not fitting in because of my sexuality. But despite the homophobia I found in the Catholic Worker I still could not run away from Dorothy. Wherever I went, whatever I did she followed me, in fact she became the Hound of Heaven–chasing me, loving me, calling me–calling me to her way of life, to a ministry with the poor. Her call was clear: serve the poor and you will find the Christ. I read of her struggles with people in the Worker who were gay, and yet I saw her transcend those struggles, and I believe that she has transcended them to seeing our gifts and seeing us for who we are–just human beings on the journey. That calling became crystal clear to me one night on Santa Monica Blvd. in LA. I had had a rough night hustling. I felt lead to into a local church just simply to rest. As I looked up at the crucifix I heard a voice say to me: “It is ok, it is humans who are homophobic, you were born who you are, and you were called to ministry as a gay human being. And I felt the presence of Jesus and I could see Dorothy smiling. From that time forward I moved out of the life of being a sex worker to a counselor and then to San Francisco as a Catholic Worker in 1994.
It was that call that lead me to to San Francisco to begin Temenos Catholic Worker working with the homeless, young adults, young male sex workers, and transgender sex workers. And thus began the greatest adventure of my life, an experience that has transformed me, and brought me closer to Jesus then I could ever imagined. I had left the Church because of it homophobia. In fact I did not darken the door of a Church for some time.
During the first year of working on the streets I came to know Jesus as I had never known him before. On this journey Dorothy was my spiritual director, always present. My life was changing in deep ways. During this time I became more aware then ever of my call to ministry and of the need of a Sacramental ministry to the people I walked with every day. One day I was reading PSYCOLOGY TODAY and I came across and advertisement to join the Evangelical Anglican Church in America and to become a part of its ordination process. It is an Old Catholic group. I responded, and thus began my journey to ordination in a Church that received everyone for who they were. I became a priest, and my priesthood has been given to the poorest of the poor. To celebrate the Sacraments for me is the greatest gift I have been given. In 2007 I was consecrated a Bishop and formed the Society of Franciscan Workers, Inc, a group that works with the poorest of the poor, and I continue to be a Catholic Worker.
Through the years I have wondered why I remain a Catholic Worker. For many Catholic Workers are very homophobic and are not very accepting, but I know the reason I am a Catholic Worker is my friendship with Dorothy. She has taught me everything about life, and most importantly she has taught me that change comes slowly and that we are called to be a witness, and that in that witness Jesus speaks. Being friends with Dorothy has transformed my life and the life of the countless thousands. Deo Gratis! Thanks be to God!
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