Giving in Friendship

Giving in Friendship

    Last night sitting outside an  Italian restaurant down the street, it was getting ready to rain, and  I watched the cars pass,  reminding me of Puerto Vallario when Matt and I went visiting a couple of years ago, and the cars drove continually up and down the street, and I remember the poorest of the poor out begging there, and now  around me tonight people were begging, more and more all the time; one, Jim, whom I haven’t seen in a while walked over smiling, we talked, he was going to buy some food from money earned selling the  “Street Sheet,” he patted me on the shoulder and moved on.

    Today,  Jamie, approached me at my door, telling me of his recent life events–in and out of jail, being hit by a car, and now he is planning to get his life together, and making money, honestly–the same story he has been telling for twenty years.     Through individuals like these guys the one lesson learned is that we can fix part of a person, but not all will be fixed. The same in myself, and in all of us. There is always good to be found.

    Last night eating dinner outside, a person at a near table, observed the vaccination card around my neck; he came over and tried to start an argument about vaccination, he is “anti-vax” proudly labeling himself. And as I always do I said, “Yes, I respect your position” and I thought to myself  with an “and, ” I feel the vaccination is necessary for me.” There are no judgments made.

    “When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl.

    Finally, I was giving food and socks to people later,  and an individual started screaming because I did not have what she needed. I listened, and she calmed down.     Someone asked me “How can you tolerate being screamed at.” We are all created with a full range of emotions, there is nothing to fear. We need to allow people to express their emotions.

    Learning to find joy in the ordinary is a key to having a satisfying life. And one of the keys to joy is finding we are friends with everyone, whether they are friends to us. Fr. Henri Nouwen summarizes friendship:
“When we truly love God and share in his glory, our relationships lose their compulsive character. We reach out to people not just to receive their affirmations but also to allow them to participate in the love we have come to know through Jesus. Thus true friendship becomes an expression of a greater love.
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Fr. River Sims, sfw, D.Min., D.S.T.
P.O. Box 642656
San Francisco, CA 94164
http://www.temenos.org
415-305-2124
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